Thursday, December 08, 2011

Why Blogging Sometimes Scares Me

  • I'm afraid to recommend books (though I do). I always envision someone buying a book on my recommendation and HATING it and then, not only do they not come to my blog anymore, they start badmouthing me around the Internet. 
  • I'm afraid to give a book a bad review (though I will). I always anticipate a flood of defensive comments from the author and/or a flurry of emails (which has happened but I'm not naming names). 
  • I'm afraid of the PC culture that primes readers to be offended at everything you say. I'm so conditioned not to antagonize that I go out of my way to keep political opinion out of my blog and I never post anything political on my Facebook feed-- though I often want to. But then I suppose I'm just as easily offended; I have unsubscribed to a LOT of people myself. 
  • Losing my online anonymity. This isn't really a big deal-- it's not like I'm a rockstar or something. But I have weird privacy issues. I am definitely not one of those people who posts a gazillion pictures online (and never put up pics of my kids). But it took me years before I felt comfortable attaching my real name to this blog in any way. But with my luck I'll end up being cyber-stalked anyway. 
  • I don't have an editor. I try to post halfway decent writing, but there are always typos, clunky sentences and horrible grammar that slip through. Every time I go back and reread an old post I end up correcting something. 
  • I'm pretty sure I sound like an idiot on a regular basis. 
  • I worry that I'm not quite geeky enough for my own blog. When I started the site I knew I liked fantasy books and science fiction movies but I gave no thought to comic books or video games.  Thank goodness for my contributors-- they give me some geek cred. 
  • I have a fear of running out of ideas and cope by making pointless lists of bullet points. 


Carol said...

I can totally relate to a lot of these, especially the typos, grammar mistakes, and looking like an idiot. I've decided not to let it bother me though, at least too much.

SQT said...

Carol-- I'm still waiting to get to the 'not-bothered' point.

Charles Gramlich said...

I feel like you do about reviewing books. My tastes are pretty eccentric it seems, considering what I've hated that others have loved.

Budd said...

Whenever I see a red headed blue chick I always wonder if it is you.

Have no fear, your blog, your writing, your geekiness, and all the rest are just fine.

SQT said...

Charles- That's the thing. I'll love a book and then see other reviews that trash it and I'm like what are they smoking? I'm always a little befuddled that we don't all have identical tastes.

Budd-- Thank you. :)

Michael Offutt, Expert Critic said...

As a writer who is soon to be a published author, I know that I will get some bad reviews. But I'm also thinking I'll maybe get some good ones too. Subjectivity is the business, right? I think a review, as long as it is honest and goes into detail is worth a lot. I don't like reviews that make me wonder if the person even read the book. Example: "This was a great fast read and I recommend it to everyone!" That tells me nothing.

Scott said...

Totally not just you. I have every single one of those fears about my blog, every single day.

Glad I'm not alone. :D

Blodeuedd said...

I have those fears too, I recommend a book and then hate it :(
The pics I do post are ones of me with big sunglasses on.

And I always have typos cos I am lazy and do not check back. So you are not alone :)

Allison said...

You are not alone! I am also scared of giving negative reviews, because I realize writers pour their hearts and souls into their books, but I also know to be a writer you have to learn to take criticism, and there are ways of giving it respectfully.

I like people who sound like idiots and I happen to be one myself.

As for not being geeky enough--you can't expect to be into EVERYTHING nerdy under the sun. And, as in aside, if you ever need a video game guest post I would be happy to oblige! haha. I will actually be doing a top 10 series on video games on my own blog soon.

Allison (Geek Banter)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Hey, I'm an author throwing not only his blog but his books to the wind! Don't worry about it.

Elfy said...

Ihave all of those fears too, I recently debated removing a negative review, but decided to leave it there, because that was how I felt about the book and I don't want to only post favourable reviews. You're going to find a book you don't like from time to time, it's just not realistic to think otherwise.

Jamie (Mithril Wisdom) said...

I'm with you on most of those points and feel the same about my blogging. But not to worry; we're still here so you're doing something right!

Jessica ( frellathon ) said...

You've totally summed up my feelings on the matter. I love blogging and yet the things you've mentioned are the things that make me ask why, why did I start doing this?! lol

Steve Miller, Writer of Stuff said...

Great post, even if it may just be "filler." :)

I occasionally wonder if blog posts haven't sometimes hurt my prospects, but I'm too stupid to stop. And for that same reason, I am rarely concerned about sounding like an idiot. I KNOW I do. :)

As for writers, artists, actors--whomever--getting upset at a negative review... well, that goes with the territory when you put your work out there and ask others to pay good money to experience it. I stopped worrying long ago... and I've even stopped reacting to the occasional negative blow-back from upset artists. I don't go out of my way to be mean (generally speaking... one of my blogs is titled "Movies You Should [Die Before You] See" so there may be an exception every now and then), but I am always honest in my evaluations. And I think that's what anyone should expect of any reviewer.

As for privacy... my picture was next to columns that got me death threats from Iranian crazies in 1989, so I've just kept that up once I took up blogging. I never EVER bring up details about family or friends (unless they happen to be public figures or collaborators) and I rarely mention anything about my public life. First off, I don't think anyone cares, and second off, I don't need to make things too easy for any potential crazies out there.

Bryce L. said...

I always have people correcting things I've written. It's always like, ouch, when will I learn to double check things...or just learn to speak/write. The worst are the malaprops. At least a grammar mistake is just from thinking quick. Actually thinking a word is used one way when it's not, makes me look really dumb all the time. :)

I share you sentiment here. Not to brown nose too much, but I love the blog and these "useless" lists. :D

ediFanoB said...

What shall I add? You describe exactly the way I feel.
But as long as someone reads what we write we can't be totally wrong.

Before I post a post my wife checks my post for obvious mistakes like wrong spelling.

In the end we write what we think. Nobody is obliged to follow our recommendations.

It is good to questions what we are doing because it keeps us sensible. But we also should show self confidence.

Pabkins said...

sometimes the net is super scary. But I think you do just fine. I guess i Never think about political opinions since I don't have many of them. As for negative reviews - I write them - if you read it you have the right to your opinion. If people want to get all icky and mean about it - there is a delete button haha use it!

Pabkins said...

i mean delete as in delete their emails to you! haha