Monday, May 21, 2007

Is it Possible to Love Something Too Much?

My friend Mike sent me an email about sci-fi weddings and I thought it would be a good post. Unfortunately, my email has decided it doesn't want to work today, so I don't have his email to work from. Of course, I would have to wait until late evening to do my post, that way it's so much more difficult fun. The good thing (for me anyway) is that there is an abundance of information on the subject floating around in cyberspace. One website, Mental Floss has all kinds of pictures and videos on the topic. It also appears it's becoming a booming business in Vegas. There are tons of sites now offering all kinds of wedding themes at their little chapels now, from Star Trek to Medieval, it's not all about Elvis anymore. But I can't help ask, is this..uh... normal? I have no real problem with people having outrageous weddings if it makes them happy, I mean, why not? But there is a part of me that wonders if this is a sign of a fantasy life that's become a little too much of a person's reality. Years ago, when my husband was first getting started in his career, he had a couple of clients who were really into the Medieval era. So much so they dressed up in Medieval style armor, just like the Black Knight, and dueled with broadswords. Okay, whatever floats your boat. But a wedding is going all out isn't it? I mean, you kind of have to get your extended family to go along with it; at least if you want a big wedding you do anyway. How do you sell grandma on dressing up like a Klingon? I'm not sure I could pull that off. Have you even known anyone who had a wedding like this? What would you think if your best friend asked you to be in the wedding but wanted you to dress up like a Storm Trooper?

21 comments:

Fab said...

A storm trooper outfit would be too warm and if I'd wear the small 'Leia outfit' it would draw away the attention from the bride.

DesLily said...

I guess it's no more weird then those that do underwater weddings or skydiving weddings etc.. there's no doubt it would remain memorable! lol.. (but it is weird!)

Jon the Intergalactic Gladiator said...

Yeah, I just can't see why a couple would love Star Wars or Star Trek so much that they'd want that theme for a wedding.

There is a comic book artist (I don't remember his name offhand) who got married dressed as Vader while his wife dressed as Leia. A little icky if you think about it.

This isn't just science fiction, though. When my college roommate got married, he and all the groomsmen had Pittsburg Steelers helmets on their ties and vests.

mist1 said...

It depends. Is there an open bar?

SQT said...

If this was my wedding I would definitely have an open bar. Just for me.

My husband was a huge KISS fan when we met, thank God he wasn't soooooo obsessed that he wanted to do a KISS wedding. He might not have survived the experience had he asked.

Crunchy Carpets said...

There is a comic guy that named his baby Anakin.

I think if you are heavily involved in something and so are the majority of your friends..then it sort of makes sense to do a 'theme.'

But I also worry about THAT being your memory down the road of your wedding...it is supposed to be slighlty serious is it not?

I had an aquaintance that did a whole dress up wedding...everyone was renting costumes. I also know a couple who did a country and western theme..hay bales and all.

I do worry about folks who take this stuff a bit too seriously...I went to an open house for the Society of Creative Anacronysms (the dudes who do the medieval stuff) and they were waaaay too serious about it...took all the fun out of dressing up and getting into something different.

The Curmudgeon said...

Yes, it's way too weird.

And, besides, what sci-fi wedding turns out happy? There's some subconscious harbinger of doom working here.

And think about it: The bride-to-be has lured her dream man out of his mother's basement with a promise that she'll dress up for the wedding like Yeoman Rand... does she really think he's worth it?

avery said...

Now, I'd have even done the Star Trek thing if I could have seen my grandmother dressed as a Klingon. Totally worth it; she was a saucy old bird. I can see her now, cigarette dangling from one hand as she fusses with her brow ridges. "Avery, my Goddamn forehead is itching!"

It's not like weddings are fun in the first place. There's always at least one person who looks horrible in, or hates their outfit. Might as well go all out, then.

Jean-Luc Picard said...

If the bride and groom want it, that's fine. It could be tough persuading others though.

Lee said...

Well, maybe if someone double dog dared me.

Stewart Sternberg said...

Fab, I'm going to have to ask for a picture of the Leia costume...otherwise, I can't make the call.

Weddings...why stop there? Why not do an Indiana Jones funeral? Why not do a Buffy The Vampire Slayer Briss (for the fallen Jew, that's where the foreskin is clipped. ouch). Why not celebrate one's loss of virginity with a theme of some sort? Why not dress up for the event as a hobbit? Furry toes can be erotic.

Cynical, you call me? A humbug? Well perhaps. But I think there is nerd and geek...and then there is nerd and geek.

Once I went to a gathering of pagans (sheesh) and they danced around publicly, dressed silly, and made a spectacle of themselves. I am not sure what that had to do with their religion. But I couldn't help but being reminded of the Goth who dresses absurdly and goes: "Look at me..look at me...look at me...HEY, Whaddya looking at???"

Crunchy Carpets said...

Ooooh soooo many tempting Mother in Law jokes are bursting forth and with her in the hospital for SERIOUS problems right now....I will go straight to hell if I say any of them.

Sigh.

Fab said...

Stewart! A picture?! Only if you won't publish it on your blog *wink* ... yeah right!

Sarah said...

I went to a Halloween costume wedding last year. All the decorations had a Nightmare Before Christmas theme. It was sort of cute... but then, most people waited on the costumes until the reception.

avery said...

Hey, take it easy on the pagans, Stewart. At least we don't try to recruit.

And, no, I don't participate in any kind of group fun whatsoever, so I don't know what they were doing or why they were dressed up.

SQT said...

Crunchy, speaking of mothers-in-law. Mine is going through one heck of a mid-life-crisis. She's decided she is now a Wiccan, though I'm not sure she's cognizant of what's going on with all the alcohol and bi-polar meds swimming in her system. Add a few tattoos and there you have her. In the immortal words of Dolly Parton, my father-in-law doesn't know whether to wind his butt or scratch his watch.

Stewart Sternberg said...

Avery, my nephew, who actually allegedly participated in ritual magick, used to describe himself as a Jewish pagan. And he couldn't see the problem with that description. It's why they invented the bitch slap.

No offense to the pagans out there. I'm something of a pagan myself...or does self worship not count? LOVE ME.

avery said...

No big deal Stewart. Just felt you needed a tug on your choke chain every once in a while. ;)

Alex said...

One problem: the chick in the photo provided is fawking hot.

Hot chicks don't marry scifi geeks.

Unless they're, like, Bill Gates rich!

SQT said...

Yeah, that picture looks like a promo shot.

Crunchy Carpets said...

Hey...Alex....I married a geek....what are you trying to say?